43rd WEDDING ANNIVERSARY CELEBRATION WITH SIR ROD-PART TWO

 Ah....Rod, it's been a while! 

However....YOU WEAR IT WELL!

Ray and I both had a fantastic time at the concert, and I got some great photos, even though the couple in front of us stood the whole time! 

It was pretty funny because right before Rod came on, the woman leaned over and told us they weren’t 'concert standers' and wouldn’t be blocking our view. So I was somewhat shocked when, about a minute into the show, she and her husband jumped up and stayed on their feet for the entire show! 

The guy in the red hat and his wife beside him were lovely people, but they lied about the "not standing" thing! LOL

That was okay, though, because hardly anyone was sitting, including me and Ray!

I've seen Rod in concert quite a number of times over the years, but this was the first time since around 2007 or 2008. He remains the ultimate entertainer! It was such a blast!

After just standing and dancing around in the heat while watching Rod perform, I kept thinking, "HOW does this 80 y/o guy do this night after night, traveling all over?" 

The entire show, from start to finish, was incredible! Rod, his band, his backup singers, the dancers...all were absolutely fantastic!

The woman on the right in the photo below has been playing with Rod for many, many years, and she's great!

You're In My Heart-

There was a tribute to Tina Turner just before Rod and one of his backup singers sang the song Rod and Tina had recorded together many years ago. It Takes Two.

Rod sang 'Forever Young' in tribute to Ozzy Osbourne, who had passed away the previous week. 

I could go on forever about how much fun it was being at the concert! I will remember this fun night for a long time to come! 

43rd WEDDING ANNIVERSARY CELEBRATION WITH SIR ROD-PART ONE

Celebrating our upcoming 43rd Wedding Anniversary by finally seeing Sir Rod Stewart again! 

I wanted to decorate my vest for the occasion! Obviously, if you know anything about Sir Rod, you know he loves his animal prints and pinks! Also, if you don't know what Every Picture Tells A Story is...you should check out some of his old music!

BACK OF MY VEST

READY TO SEE SIR ROD

You can read all about our trip to Vegas a year ago (right here and here ) to see Rod on our anniversary. That didn't turn out the way we would have liked, but we were really hoping this year would be much better. 

Sir Rod

We were only allowed to take in small posters, so I wanted them to convey a big message on a small surface! 

Since Rod and I have both gone through a cancer diagnosis twice, and Rod's music made so many bad days better for me, I thought my sign was perfect! And the hubby's sign is self-explanatory! LOL

MY GUY SHOWING HIS SUPPORT!

Cheap Trick would be opening for Rod, so we had a while to wait for our guy!

While we were waiting, we had a great time chatting with a security officer and some of the other people sitting nearby. We were surprised by how many younger attendees were excited to see Rod!

We had a really unexpected experience while we were sitting there. A guy came down from the stage and handed Ray a pair of drumsticks, telling us that they belonged to Rod's drummer. We were both so surprised that we didn’t say much other than, "Thank you!" We did wonder aloud if they knew Ray was a drummer, but the guy just smiled and went back on stage.

I took this pic from the program we bought! This guy is a great drummer!

Cheap Trick had some issues with their sound, and although they didn't sound bad, they didn't sound great, partly due to the sound system issues. 

I managed to get some good photos of them since people weren't standing up, which gave me a good view of them all. 

                                                 

Anxiously awaiting Sir Rod! Did I mention the "feels like" temp was 102 degrees??! 

Finally...it's time to take our 3rd ROW SEATS  and get ready for SIR ROD STEWART!!

LACK OF COMMUNICATION WITH NEW ONCOLOGIST

So, it’s been a minute—actually, more like three months. I really hate that my first post after all this time is just me venting, but I’ve got to keep it real.

I have discussed in previous posts how the anxiety of a metastatic breast cancer diagnosis, or any cancer diagnosis, is always present. While it may not always be overwhelming, it never completely fades.

Certain triggers can significantly elevate those anxiety levels, such as waiting for test results or noticing a new ache or pain.

Over the past couple of months, I have experienced several triggers related to my health situation, but one thing weighs much more heavily on me than the others...... 

LACK OF COMMUNICATION=Stress 

Currently, the biggest source of my stress is the lack of communication with my new oncologist and her staff. When I say "lack," I mean it is virtually non-existent.

When I began my breast cancer journey with Dr. Saker and his nurse practitioner, Wan, following my initial diagnosis in early October 2016, I was overcome with fear. I understood the importance of having a medical team I could trust, and I quickly realized how essential it was to maintain open communication with them.

I quickly learned to trust that Dr. Saker and Wan were doing everything possible to provide the best care for both my physical health and mental well-being. I knew I could always rely on them to address any questions or concerns I had.

But now, Dr. Saker and Wan have both retired, and my journey continues with a new doctor at a new location. 

Although my new oncologist seems like a lovely woman, the level of care provided by her and the staff at the new location is not sufficient. 

It's nearly impossible to address my questions or concerns outside of my regular monthly visits. I have called the office several times with different concerns and/or questions and left messages, but I've either received no response or gotten a call from a nurse who can't seem to get answers from the doctor.

Unfortunately, I have to come to terms with the fact that I need to either accept the lack of communication and care from this new doctor, advocate for better care at this facility, or find another doctor altogether.

None of these options is ideal, and I feel very vulnerable right now. I'm also feeling a bit angry. Most importantly, I miss Dr. Saker and Wan.

Perhaps I am wrong to expect the same level of care from this new doctor, but I feel I deserve more from an oncologist and her staff. 

So now, I have a decision to make......

EASTER WEEK FAMILY TIME

We felt truly blessed to spend time with family during Easter Week! Alex drove down from Knoxville on Good Friday, and we enjoyed chatting, laughing, and going out to dinner together. Then, on Saturday, we drove to Gainesville, GA, where we checked into the perfect Airbnb!

Strawberry Margarita

Alex at Jersey Peach

 

On Saturday afternoon, Nick and Alison arrived after a long drive from their home in Massachusetts. They stopped to visit Alison's brother and his family in North Carolina before continuing their journey to Georgia. We were so happy to see them both, since we had not seen them since their wedding last April!

April 13, 2024-Such a beautiful day! 

We were thrilled to have our sons, Conor and Robert, along with our wonderful daughter-in-law, Jennifer, Robert's wife, join us on Sunday for a fantastic family day together!

Jen, Pam, Alison

Jen, Robert, Nick, Alison

Conor

Conor, Alison

Jen, Robert

Alex, Alison

Alex

We spent a lot of quality time together, eating and drinking a lot! 

We played RummiCube, Scattergories, Phase 10, and other fun games!

Later in the week, we walked on the trails right across the street from the Airbnb.

View of the covered bridge from our house.

Nick and Alison

One evening, Ray, Alex, Conor, and I walked to the nearby lake.

Our time together flew by far too quickly, but it was truly wonderful, filled with laughter, a bit of craziness, and a whole lot of love!

MILESTONES IN THE JOURNEY

On April 7th, I celebrated a special milestone: eight years since my mastectomy. This day was filled with mixed emotions as I reflected on the anxieties of the uncertainties I faced in the past and those I still encounter today. However, my gratitude for this incredible journey far outweighs those feelings.

My breast cancer journey began a few months before my mastectomy. I was diagnosed in early October and underwent several months of chemotherapy before the surgery. By April 2017, I was ready to take that next step, though it was a terrifying prospect.

I made it through the surgery with flying colors!

Each year has brought its own challenges and victories, and I have learned to truly embrace the strength I have gained along the way. I recognize that I would not have come this far without the unwavering love and support of my family and friends; they have been my rock throughout this journey. 

As I reflect on this experience, I am struck by the range of emotions I can feel at once. It serves as a reminder of how far I have come and the importance of every step I have taken.

MARCH-LYMPHEDEMA AWARENESS MONTH

I can't believe I waited until the last day of March to mention that March is Lymphedema Awareness Month!

After my mastectomy, my surgeon informed me that I had a high risk of developing lymphedema due to the surgery, radiation, and lymph node removal. He referred to me as a "triple threat." He encouraged me to see a lymphedema therapist for baseline measurements so we could assess how much larger my arm had become if I started to experience symptoms. He also provided other important information on the subject. I have since learned that some oncologists and even breast surgeons do not discuss lymphedema with their patients, which is shocking to me. What the heck??

Living with lymphedema has been challenging—physically, mentally, and financially. Unfortunately, I experience pain or discomfort from my lymphedema on a daily basis. Finding attractive and comfortable clothing that can effectively camouflage my much larger arm is often stressful and difficult. Additionally, the costs of compression garments and physical therapy sessions can add up quickly. Fortunately, advocates like actress Kathy Bates and many other supporters have worked hard to ensure that Medicare and insurance companies now cover most of our needs!

Today, I visited Cavell's, a specialty boutique that sells mastectomy and lymphedema supplies, to get fitted for new bras and lymphedema garments. It’s hard to believe, but some insurance companies still consider compression sleeves "cosmetic." Seriously??

I want to emphasize the importance of taking proactive measures regarding lymphedema if you are facing a breast cancer diagnosis. It’s essential to ask questions, research, and seek a qualified lymphedema therapist. Hopefully, there are more available than there are in my locality.

HAPPY TO ANSWER QUESTIONS

I am happy to answer any questions I can on the subject. I will soon post updated photos of my lymphedema arm and some pictures of the items I purchased today.

 

SCARY WORDS

While talking on the phone with a friend yesterday, the topic somehow shifted to words and phrases. She ended up saying, "There are definitely some words or phrases you just never want to hear or say."

CANCER

After my breast cancer diagnosis in October 2016, I found it nearly impossible to say the word "cancer" without feeling a surge of anxiety. I needed to inform my family and friends, but even thinking about that word made me feel so anxious that I nearly felt like throwing up. Over time, I became more comfortable with it, but another word emerged that became even harder for me to say.

METASTATIC

In 2020, a biopsy revealed cancer in a lymph node, and while my doctor avoided using the term "metastatic," I sensed that was the case. When I finally asked, he confirmed, “Yes, it's considered metastatic. It’s not currently curable but is treatable.”

UNDERSTANDING METASTATIC BREAST CANCER

Metastatic breast cancer is when cancer spreads from the breast to other parts of the body. My doctor said that having metastatic disease doesn’t mean all hope is lost. Many treatment options exist, and new medications are always being tested, allowing many people to lead long, fulfilling lives.

My doctor explained that even though I'm in remission, a small dormant cell remains in my body. To prevent its spread, I take Verzenio daily and receive monthly Faslodex injections. We monitor my blood for white blood cell counts, which can drop due to the medications, but my numbers are currently stable.

Managing Negative Thoughts

I generally feel pretty good and no longer feel nauseous when I hear "metastatic." I know that it’s totally normal for negative thoughts to arise occasionally. Accepting this helps me navigate the tough days I face while dealing with cancer.

Coping Strategies

Managing difficult days effectively requires varied strategies. What works one day might not be effective another. 

When negative thoughts overwhelm me, I try to balance my spiritual, social, and physical health.

Here are some techniques I have found beneficial at times.

- Talking to a friend or family member.

- Getting outside for fresh air and a walk.

- Enjoying a good book or movie.

- Finding humor in challenging situations.

- Joining a support group, online or in person.

- Eating a big chunk of fudge. (No judgment, please!)

- Praying.

While I have had some success with the techniques above, nothing soothes my soul and relieves my stress quite like prayer.

Reaching out to my faith and support groups helps me handle things better on this journey.